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Celebrating Two Years Single: A Journey to Self-Discovery

• Angela Christian • Season 3 • Episode 142

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Celebrating two years of intentional singlehood transformed my entire existence. After years of dating since age 15, I finally chose myself completely. This radical act of self-love wasn't born from bitterness but from wisdom—recognizing that I needed uninterrupted space to heal, grow, and build my business without the distraction of romantic companions.

My journey began when I had the courage to end a comfortable relationship that wasn't energetically aligned, despite there being "no drama." Through studying rapid resolution therapy and developing my intuitive abilities, I discovered I had been consistently attracted to partners who needed "fixing"—giving me a false sense of purpose while distracting me from my true calling. 

This pattern of relationship dependency kept me from fully developing myself. During these two years, I've cultivated a profound relationship with myself, launched a six-figure business, developed extraordinary intuitive abilities, and learned to communicate authentically. Most importantly, I've discovered that relationships aren't about completing us—they're about complementing our already whole selves.

One of the most powerful concepts I've embraced is the "law of reflections"—understanding that what triggers us in others is actually reflecting something within ourselves that needs healing. Just as wiping mascara from a mirror won't clean the makeup smudged on your actual face, trying to change a partner won't resolve what's imbalanced within you.

I've learned that many people settle for "two out of four" soul matches (essentially 50% compatible), creating relationships full of struggle. The truth is that attracting your true soulmate isn't just about destiny—it requires conscious inner work to become an energetic match for them. When my four out of four soulmate does arrive, their love will be extra, not necessary.

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Speaker 1:

Welcome to Unveiled the podcast. I'm your host, angela Christian, and I help you with unveiling your true self by peeling away the layers that society placed on you. I do this with a combination of neuroscience, energetics and ancient spiritual wisdom. I went from underpaid and overworked in corporate America to launching a six-figure company that continues to grow. I went from toxic relationships to being happy and single for over a year as I worked and continue to work on becoming the best version of myself, and so much more. My greatest passion is to help women and mothers heal, transform and become the highest versions of themselves. Heal, transform and become the highest versions of themselves. As I continue to grow and expand my intuitive knowledge and unique wisdom, I'll be including you on my journey to millions, so let's get into it.

Speaker 2:

Hello, welcome back to Unveiled. So today I'm going to talk about why I'm celebrating two years of being single and what exactly that looked like and what that did for me and not that you couldn't do this if you weren't single, but you'll see why it was really crucial for me to stay single during this time. So if you saw on my Instagram yesterday, I posted about this because it was two years ago that I decided I needed to be single. Okay, so I'm going to be just super honest and authentic with what I mean about single, to be just super honest and authentic with what I mean about single. So two years ago, two Easter's ago, I had been dating someone who was the first person I dated after my divorce and he was a nice guy. Like he was someone I knew since I was about 16. We lived in the same town, grew up in the same town. I actually dated one of his friends actually two of his friends back when I was younger. I don't regret that relationship at all with him because it was very much a cozy type situation where on paper, it looked like we were a good match, but there was just something missing and I couldn't put my finger on it at the time. But, like I could have, I could have just stayed with him and, like had a very basic normal life, but that was not in the plans for me and I'm so glad I didn't.

Speaker 2:

So when I started dating him, I had been studying rapid resolution therapy for quite a while and I continued studying that during our relationship and one day it was shortly after, I'd had a call with my psychic. At the time she was amazing and always very honest with me and she told me he's going to hold you back, like he's not your, you know person and I had already known that. But just hearing that from her was just the confirmation I needed, Like okay. So one day I literally remember I sat up in bed and I was like a fog had lifted and this was probably I don't even know how many months after studying rapid resolution therapy which, if you're new to my podcast, it was something I studied around nervous system regulation, unconscious reprogramming I was certified twice as a clinical therapist, hypnotherapist, utilizing rapid resolution therapy.

Speaker 2:

It was amazing for healing trauma that I had experienced in previous relationships, other traumatic events, all of that right, an amazing modality, but what was missing was the energetic spiritual piece to that right, because, yes, it's great to heal the trauma, but if you don't know the energetics behind the drama or drama drama too if you don't know the energetics behind the trauma, like why it happened, and actually shift that, then you're likely to experience it again. Because there's this whole thing called the law of reflections, which I'm diving into in my membership this month. Not too late for you to join, you can join at any time, and today I'm actually recording a lesson for them and I asked them to submit any reflections they're experiencing and I'm going to talk about it on our training today and then we'll have another training next week. So if you were to join um today or whenever you hear this, you would be able to submit your reflections for the next training and I would break those down for you. Law of reflections will literally change your life.

Speaker 2:

So I didn't know about all of this at this point. So I woke up one day the fog had lifted because I had cleared so much trauma, so much just gunk. Because the unconscious reprogramming piece is really important because what it does is it closes a bunch of open tabs, like running in the background, like if you have a on my phone or computer. I often have so many tabs open running in the background, taking up energy, space, all of that, right. So when I started my training, I was literally closing so many tabs that for the first time ever, I felt so clear headed.

Speaker 2:

Now I feel even more clear headed, but at that moment it was the most clear headed I think I've ever felt in my life and I just woke up and I was like I have to break up with him, like he didn't do anything to me. He was actually a really nice guy. It was not an abusive relationship in any way. But what I noticed is now, looking back. I know a lot of this was reflective, but you know, we had very different views on things and I was just not speaking my truth. I would just not say anything. And if I had said something sooner, right, we probably would have gotten into a little discussion and then I probably would have ended it a lot sooner. But I just stayed quiet.

Speaker 2:

It was a really big moment for me because I actually broke it off when there was no like drama. He was like actually shocked that I broke up with him because things had been progressing in the way that they should, based on society, right. I just knew it wasn't the right fit for me. On top of that, my oldest daughter, who I just know she was my mother in a past life Like she is amazing. Like kids are such amazing teachers and they come into this world to help us as well, right. So that Easter weekend two years ago is I'll remember it forever. I got a call because I came to my parents' house for Easter and she didn't come up. So her friends called and said she was not doing so well, and that kind of kicked off this whole thing.

Speaker 2:

That where I was like, okay, I have been devoting, you know, a lot of time to this man, he was starting to go through dramatic situations with his ex where I had been there before. It was like deja vu I do not want to get involved with another man who has baby mama issues, like that's the very thing I help women with, right. And I could see myself, just like I had done with my ex prior, getting involved, trying to help, and I was just like no, no, enough is enough. Like I need to focus on my life, on my kids, on my soul path, right. So I thought about it for a while and it was just. I didn't want to hurt him, of course, but I had to put myself first and I did, and that was amazing because I had not done that before.

Speaker 2:

I literally was someone who you know at age 15, got into my first relationship and since then I've been in relationships since age 15. I think the longest time I was ever single was maybe three months, maybe like five months at the most, but like, I have been single for two years. So now let me get into what I mean by single. I have not been actively looking to date 100%.

Speaker 2:

Last September I went on a trip with an ex and that turned out to be disastrous. It was not a date. He and I have done that like over the years. He is a musician in Nashville and I realized finally, after years of knowing this, that he is just infiltrated with dark forces. As many musicians are want to go back and listen to some other ones, but I have a whole dark force program. If that interests you, I'll link it in the show notes. It's called light it up and I actually walk you through. It's a very supportive dark force um program. So I went on a trip with him and it was disastrous. Like I said, we weren't planning on like dating again or anything like that, but we always had fun Some of the well, I shouldn't say always, but we we used to go on trips, right, we were great travel people.

Speaker 2:

At one point I was in a serious relationship with him, but every time I got around him and I've talked about this before I would be energetically drained, I would have like random rashes, I would get styes in my eye like literally every time I went around him. That's how dark and like of an energetic vampire he was and is. Then he signed a contract with a very big record company and he did that in between seeing him. So he signed a big contract. I went and saw him one summer and then the next. Um, yeah, so. So the amount of darkness that increased between him signing that dark, uh, between signing that big contract was insane. Like he's no longer like someone I can even like he. I just feel like he's not even there anymore. It's actually really sad.

Speaker 2:

So he did something inexcusable on that trip that I will just never speak to him again and I told him that made it very clear not to contact me or else I would take legal action. So that's that. So I went on a trip with him. I wouldn't call that like dating, right? It's something we've done in the past, where if I'm single, he invites me on a trip, I've gone. We'll not ever do that again, okay, there was also someone who I had connected with in an online space, a writing group that I was in. He lived in a different country. However, we established like a friendship and then it became a little bit. Obviously we're attracted to each other. All of that we chatted for like almost daily for about six months, maybe longer, but it wasn't like we never met in person, right.

Speaker 2:

So what he really helped me do though it was amazing he helped me work on my communication. So he would do things that would kind of piss me off a little bit, and I used that and I knew that was a situation for me to work on my communication, right. So I've always had a really tough time with communicating my needs, my thoughts and relationships from childhood things, right. So I've always had a really tough time with communicating my needs, my thoughts and relationships from childhood things, right. Being told to just stop crying don't make a big deal, like all of this stuff that a lot of us go through. So I felt so uncomfortable but I pushed myself to speak up, like, for example, maybe we had a call, like a Zoom call, scheduled and I was on my way to go to my office, which was 30 minutes away, and he had to cancel, right, and that happened like twice in a row and I finally said something and we talked about it, right? So wasn't a relationship because I never even met him in person, but it did help me learn how to communicate.

Speaker 2:

So, other than that, oh and sorry, then there was one guy who did ask me to go on a date and we, like went on a short walk with his dog and that was it. It was like a 20 minute walk. So, yeah, that's all that's happened in the last two years. I've had people ask me out on dates and I've said no because I know that they're not the right match for me. So, being in these relationships where I felt like I needed to be the savior, I needed to help them, it gave me, like a false sense of purpose, but what it really did is distracted me from my actual soul path, right? So when I broke up with my last boyfriend two years ago, I was like no more rescuing, no more outsourcing my worth and no more. Well, he seems really nice. If he just does this, we might be a good match. That was.

Speaker 2:

The other thing is like I would see their potential. Now I know it's because I'm extremely intuitive, so I can see what their higher self wants them to do. That does not mean that their human self will do that in this lifetime. It could be 10 more lifetimes and I didn't understand that until I really dialed in my intuition, to be 100% precise, right. So now I can look at someone, I can see their potential and I can also see like well, are they going to reach it in this lifetime? How likely is that Right?

Speaker 2:

So I chose this time. I was like I'm going all in on myself right now. I'm going all in on my healing my children and building a business. That really lights me up, because two years ago I was at a corporate job that I absolutely despised and I was like the worst employee. Luckily it was remote, but like typical accounting firms, they all over work and underpay their employees. It's just every firm I've been in I've been underpaid and overworked. It's just like how it is. Unfortunately and I was trying, I was so I was getting up at 4am studying RRT, working my job and also like running kids to school all of that. Then at night I would do more studying and work on my private clients, so I was literally burning the candle at both ends. However, I did end up building a six figure company right From the majority of CFO work and then some of it was uh from my healing and programs.

Speaker 2:

This year I'm already almost at what I made all of last year in my healing and like one-on-one income, which is amazing. And you know, the long road, the hard road, is the right road. Unfortunately, most people just want the shortcuts, give it to me overnight, but we honestly, now that I know the source truth, it's like we have to earn the right. If you're someone who wants to be an intuitive or a healer, you have to earn the right to be accessing sources, information right by putting in time, by practicing, by integrating. There's so much more to it that I I sometimes catch myself saying like I wish I had done this sooner, but I wasn't in a place where I would have been ready, like my human self wasn't in a place where I was ready to go all in on myself, and so one of my biggest goals when I broke up with my boyfriend two years ago was I want to fall in love with myself and I want to be so happy in my own energy that like I don't even want, like my energy is priceless, right, like for someone else to come in and have access to me, a partner like they better be on my level, no more hiding who I am, my beliefs, any of that right.

Speaker 2:

And they I wanted their love to be extra, not necessary. So another thing I noticed is like anytime I would start to feel kind of panicked about money or my future, I would try to find a partner to kind of help with that. And that is such the wrong way to find a partner. And so I was like I'm just going to be alone. I'm going to be alone and I'm going to love it and I absolutely have, like honestly, I will at some point get back into a relationship. But it's going to be completely different, because I do know. My mentor told me I have a what's called a four out of four soulmate coming in. He told me where he is, all of that, but what I need to do first to be able to be a match for him.

Speaker 2:

So in my membership I go into the source truth about relationships that you can access that at any time if you join. There's three different levels of my membership now. So you can join for $40 and start going through all of my trainings and then you will be invited to live trainings once I get those going, which will be weekly, but for now I put out a training just about every week. And then for the higher tiers in my membership you get reads. So level two is like a mini read on a block or obstacle, and then level three members get a read on the issue and a solution. So there's different tiers for everybody.

Speaker 2:

So, going back to this, in my membership last month it was all about high frequency source truth about relationships and one of the key things that I'm working on for when my partner does come in is communication and knowing how to communicate, not from a place of fear, not from a place of blame, but understanding that if he's pissing me off, it's because it's me. It's me. There's something that he's just reflecting right and it won't be about fixing him because he's an illusion and like his issue is an illusion, it would be like, and I shared this in my membership. This just came through for me last week when I was recording it. But it was like if I'm looking at myself in the mirror and let's say, my mascara is all over my eye, right, if I put my finger on the mirror to try to fix, say my mascara is all over my eye, right, if I put my finger on the mirror to try to fix the mascara that's all over, it's not going to fix, right, there's nothing, it's going to just smear the mirror. I have to actually take my finger and clear off my eye itself, right when the actual issue is.

Speaker 2:

So when a partner is is pissing you off or saying something that you don't like, or being rude or not paying attention to you, that is an illusion. What you have to fix is actually within you, and then it automatically fixes the illusion, right? So if I fix my mascara on my eye, it's going to automatically fix the reflection in the mirror of the issue, right? So this is a whole new way of looking at relationships, and this isn't just romantic relationships, this is friendships too. So I am so grateful that I have a best friend who is super high frequency and she and I can say anything to each other and if there's ever any like little bit of triggering, we know it's something within us, right? We would never say, oh my gosh, like how dare you say that? If there's any triggering, we would be like, okay, this is reflective of something within me. You know there's also all these other things about reflections, like the inside out voice. All of that I'm getting into this month in the membership. So if you want to learn more about reflections, definitely jump in, especially because next week, I think, is the last week that I'll take live reflections for the month. Yeah, so if you join this week and then you can submit your reflection issue.

Speaker 2:

And so what is a reflective issue? Just for anyone who doesn't know, if you I mean they can be as little as spilling water, dropping your keys all the time. Like today I got in my car and my coffee immediately spilled and I was like, okay, leaking valuable energy where family got it, like I knew exactly what was happening. It doesn't make me mad. Like before I'd be like, oh my God, just my luck that this is my how my day is going to go. Blah, blah, blah Like that's the normal human response, but it's not helpful. Like once you can actually read the external environment to help yourself. It's like you're living 24 seven Harry Potter world. It's pretty amazing. So another reflective piece could be like with your car, something going on with your car.

Speaker 2:

A couple of the things my members submitted had to do with itchy skin, rashes, all of these things. They're all reflections of an imbalance. So once we find the imbalance which I do with my precise, accurate intuition then I'm able to tell them like here it is like. Just yesterday I did two reads so you can also book one on one private reads with me. I offer 40 minute full reads to the public in my membership. If you're a member, then you do get a discounted many read option, but that's only for my members, because but that's only for my members. So you can book a one-on-one 40-minute read with me where I find the block and then I give you a solution right? So yesterday I did two reads. One was for a woman who had an autoimmune issue, and what's interesting about autoimmune issues is it typically means that you have like turned on yourself, and so I figured out like which area of life exactly where she was turning on herself. All of this. It spoke 100% to her and I gave her a solution to go shift and she was already feeling better before the session was was even over and she was experiencing like Crohn's disease symptoms. So it's not super pleasant, right, but she was already feeling better after that session.

Speaker 2:

Sometimes just receiving the information is enough to start shifting. And another woman had an issue with like she had put on some unwanted extra weight. And when I looked in I have a very specific way that I look in and do all of this, but I knew nothing about her. The things I picked up on was body dysmorphia and she had suffered from it in her younger years but then also said that she was still having an issue with it. So I helped her see like what was the root of all of that, how to start shifting.

Speaker 2:

There's energy work. There's a really cool thing that I can do with timeline shifting, which is where you go back to a point in time and actually heal it then and then it like ripples out to the rest of your life. So there are so many amazing things I can do energetically that the dark forces of the world just don't want people to know that's possible. But you are an energetic being in a physical body, like your energetic body, is way bigger than your physical body and your physical body actually sits inside your energy body. So, like, western medicine only addresses the physical body, right, but we have this whole energetic body and that's where the problems start. So the problems will start in the energetic body, so I can even detect a problem before it reaches the physical body. So a lot of you know, like I was also trained in Reiki and a lot of Reiki work addresses the physical body but it's not addressing the energetic components right, where I actually do healings on the energetic component and the physical body and relationships.

Speaker 2:

Like so many of our of our beliefs and our issues come from relationships, whether it's from family or friends or partner or just socially right. So knowing all of this is really really helpful and I am someone who just needed that space and time to focus on myself, to focus on my kids, to focus on learning. I mean, for the last year, daily I have been dialing in my intuition. I have been taking advanced intuitive courses, healing courses, for the last year and before that I've taken them in other programs and schools. They just were nothing compared to what I'm taking, what I've been focusing on in the last year, and so this I would not have been able to do if I had a partner who was taking up my time, especially with the partners who I tended to call in, who needed a lot of my attention, help, all of that. You know, that was.

Speaker 2:

The other thing about the person I had broken up with two years ago is he was having issues with his ex, but then also he was having financial issues and then was wanting me to like bring him on to my company and it was like whoa, how did this become so backwards? You know not what I wanted at all. Again, reflective, so I didn't know all of that back then, but he wasn't a match for me. He was like a one out of four match for me. So a lot of people, as I talk about in my membership, end up settling for a two out of four, which is a 50% match, and then they fight and then they try to make it work and they're miserable and they wonder why relationships are so hard. It's because they've settled for a two out of four match. That's my ex-husband. He was a two out of four. So, yeah, I could have stayed with him, struggled for decades. No, thank, thank you. I would rather just like keep up leveling myself and become a match for my four out of four.

Speaker 2:

And this is the thing that so many spiritual teachers are not sharing actual source truth. So they will tell you like, oh, if you're meant to be, you'll be. No, that is true, because if you don't do the inner work and your partner, you're like four out of four soulmate, which we can have multiple, but if you're not doing the inner work, you will not be an energetic match for that soulmate in this lifetime. You have to do the internal work to be a match for your soulmate. And then there's another level above that, which is called soul compliment, which I'm not even trying to get to in this lifetime because it would delay my whole soul path by three years. Like, I have way too much. I have too many people to help. I need to focus. So I am good with my soulmate, my four out of four soulmate. I will be thrilled.

Speaker 2:

A soul compliment is basically like you and the opposite energy. So, again, spiritual, you did meet your soul compliment and you haven't done the inner work. Things could explode and you wouldn't be able to maintain that relationship. So that's why learning all of this is so important if you want to have fulfilling relationships of all types, right? So I just wanted to share this for anybody else who has felt like disappointed by relationships, who have felt drained by relationships, who might be in a relationship and miserable. Right, you don't have to settle, you can do anything that you want in this life. That's the beauty of it. And you know, once you have your intuition intuition like I've had friends ask me like is my husband a three out of four, four out of four, whatever?

Speaker 2:

I can see that there's also something called soul contract. So sometimes we have a soul contract with someone for five years. If you stay with them beyond that five years, you're like eating into your time with your possible soulmate. Right, I mean, there's ways around it, but essentially you've overextended the soul contract. So for me, with my pattern and relationships of giving them more than myself, I had to take a step back and just be like enough is enough. This is about me, this is about my soul path, this is about my kids and I am the happiest I've ever been Like.

Speaker 2:

Honestly, the thought of being in a relationship sounds exhausting, but that's only because the only relationships I have to compare are all relationships that were not soulmate matches, that were not a high match for me, right. So I don't even know what it would feel like to be with a soulmate, but I do have friends who are with their soulmates and I can see the difference right. So I'm really looking forward to that day when that happens and until then, I'm just going to keep working on myself and making sure that I'm really dialed in with communication skills, all of that and relationships are an amazing place to grow. So even if you're in a relationship where you've aren't happy, there are ways that you can use that relationship to grow from what's being reflected to you, and I help people do that all the time. So it is not.

Speaker 2:

It has not been a lonely time for me. It has been a very busy, fulfilling time, and what I've actually been working on is that thought of like when I think about a relationship, like right now I would not be able to call in my four out of four soulmate, because when I think of relationships, I'm like it sounds draining just talking about a romantic relationship, again, something I'm working on. So how do I plan on clearing that? With timeline shifting, I'm going back, I'm cutting cords with my exes. I am timeline shifting and healing in those moments, in those relationships, right so that I don't carry that baggage into my soulmate relationship.

Speaker 2:

So if you are thinking that you're at a point where you just want to be single, you don't want to deal with relationships, you're in a, you know, unfulfilling relationship, definitely reach out and I can share the ways that I can help you with that, likely in my, in a one to one session, just because it would be so personal. However, if you do have a lot of like childhood beliefs and and all of that, those do need to be shifted. I mean, the energy work goes really far, but you still need to reverse and clear out those limiting beliefs and that's why what I've been trained in works so complimentary is. I'm trained in nervous system regulation, unconscious reprogramming, which is key, and a part shifting healing for you. You're still going to need to shift the belief. So if that's you, then my membership would probably be the best option, because if you join level two or level three, you get a monthly one on one read from me and then you have the ability to purchase more at a discounted rate.

Speaker 2:

So I just wanted to share this journey because it is not conventional.

Speaker 2:

I mean, most things I do are not conventional. However, I was just like you know what People celebrate all the time Like it's my six month anniversary with my boyfriend or something. You know. It's like I should be celebrating. I've taken two years that's a long time to just be with myself, to fall in love with myself, to fall in love with who I am here to be, to devote time to my kids without someone else. You know like they've already gone through enough with with my ex and they deserve just like me at my best, and I feel so happy, so fulfilled. So when my soulmate does come in, it's going to feel like their love is extra. It's a bonus. I don't need them, but they will compliment my life, I will compliment their life and we will help each other continue to evolve and grow. So if this spoke to you, if it resonated, definitely let me know, send me an email or DM me on Instagram and you can hop in the membership anytime. If you have any questions about that, just reach out.

Speaker 1:

But sending you guys all so much love out, but sending you guys all so much love. Thank you for listening to Unveiled. I always love hearing your takeaways, so please connect with me on Instagram that Angela, marie, christian and feel free to tag me when you share it with your friends. Every single review matters and it helps me reach more people who want to improve this world. If you leave a review, let me know and I'll send you a little thank you gift. Any resources mentioned in the show will be linked in the show notes. Sending you all love.