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I’m your host, Angela Marie Christian, Silicon Valley CFO turned intuitive, clinical hypnotherapist, and conscious mother.
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Someone’s criticism, your partner’s “bad” habits, your kid’s behavior, your boss’s tone, even your own sleep problems can feel like the obvious problem.
But the truth is: what’s showing up outside you is often a reflection of what’s running inside you, especially the small, fast thoughts you barely notice (and the ones running in the background). Once you see the mirror, you stop wasting energy trying to “fix” the other person and start changing the pattern that actually drives the experience.
We walk through concrete examples like being judged for working, getting activated by a rude message, and how sleep disruption can point to deeper beliefs about not doing enough or not valuing yourself. We also talk about why solutions disappear when you’re in fight-or-flight, and how the simple language of “I have no control” can lock your nervous system into a self-fulfilling loop. Shift the words, calm the body, and your mind can finally find options again.
You’ll also hear why relationship change doesn’t require both people to be “into this work.” When one person shifts internally, the dynamic often changes without a big confrontation, because the mirror has nothing left to reflect.
We end with a clear tool you can use right away: name the judgment you have about how you’re being treated, identify where you do that to yourself, find the seed belief, then take grounded action to reinforce the new pattern.
Hello and welcome back to Unveiled. It's been a little while. I have been busy with my relationship series and now launching my relationship program. All the things, Dark Force precision courses going, lots of amazing things, but I wanted to come back in and share some helpful information with you guys. So I love having private sessions for many reasons, but one of the things that I find so helpful is that I can see common themes uh running throughout with my clients, right? So then it's kind of when I notice that pattern, I'm like, okay, something's going on in the collective. Other people will need to hear this information as well. So before we jump in though, if you haven't had a chance to go through my free relationship series, I'll link the sign-up in the show notes. There are five audios out. There will be one more on Monday. And then you will be invited to a free QA with me to ask relationship questions. Uh, I do have my relationship program open for enrollment. So I'll also link that in case you're just like, I'm ready to go. I want to know what's going on with all these crazy relationships that I've been experiencing my whole life, right? I totally get it. Without all of those crazy situations I've gone through, I wouldn't have the high level of mastery that I do with relationships,
right? So that's kind of the theme of the episode today is the problem is never the problem. So whatever is driving you crazy right now, or whoever is driving you crazy right now, your partner, your mom, your boss, your kid, your mother-in-law, I want you to know it has nothing to do with them. And by the end of this episode, you're going to see exactly what it is about. And some of you might already know, but sometimes we can fall back into these patterns. It's very normal because we are human. We are in the third realm right now. We're not only human, we are also mini-gods, right? We have our higher selves who are mini-gods, and they help us navigate this crazy, this crazy planet.
So let's go into an example first, right? So let's say it's your client and they're criticizing you, or it's a family member and they're criticizing you. That actually isn't the problem. And it's really, it's a really advanced concept to understand, which is, I do talk more about this in the free relationship series. Some of you are in it, but if not, I would hop in there. Because that is never the problem. They're just showing you, whoever's criticizing you is showing you that you maybe have been criticizing yourself about making a purchase. Maybe you're criticizing yourself about not going to the gym. Whatever it is, you're criticizing yourself. You haven't caught the hint by other reflections in your life. When you don't notice that, then it has to go to somebody else external, right? So if you don't catch the little reflections like spilling your water, spilling your coffee, uh stubbing your toe, those kinds of lower level reflections, then it will go to someone external. Then what do we do? We get mad at them. And believe me, I know I've had some very reflective moments with family recently, but thank God for these tools. And it's a very simple fix, actually, when you know all of the relationship high conscious tools. So for me, for example, when I was living at what at my parents' house, I love working, right? I've always had a really strong work ethic, but now I'm doing what I freaking love. I'm helping people get to their potential, clear out the trauma, clear off the dark forces, amplifying everything. I am always fine-tuning things. I'm working on my website, I'm doing this, I'm creating a new free series. I could work every day for 12 hours and probably still not be able to get everything done. So when I was living with my parents, which I did for three years, light clockwork on Saturday morning, I would have my coffee, I'd be so cozy in front of my computer, excited to dive into just a little bit of work. My kids were totally fine, doing their own thing, playing. They were happy. Within like 20 minutes to an hour, my mom would walk in. Why are you working on a Saturday? Don't you want to spend time with your kids? Wow. And at first, and this is why I had to live with my parents for three years, to prepare for my soulmate who will then be my reflector, right? But then I'm not going to take it personally because of all the experience I had with my mom and other people. So I immediately would just like this is what I do now versus what I would do before. What I would do before is get right back in her face, right? Like, you don't know anything about my business. How dare you come into my room and start telling me what to do? My kids are fine. Yes, those were things I actually used to say. Then once I understood all of this, I would take a breath and I would just either not say anything, or I'd immediately uh intuitively check how rooted she was to what she was saying. It was usually low. And I would ask intuitively if she's being my inside out voice. Yes. So then I would go to a thought I had just had when I heard my kids playing in the other room while I'm working, a quick little thought, oh, I should be playing with them. I shouldn't be working. I'm a bad mom because I'm working right now. It's just a little thought that can then create massive reflections for us. So catching those little lemonane beliefs before they blow up is key. And even if you don't have your intuition, you can figure out what thoughts those are by the way people are treating you, right? If people are ignoring you, there's something you're ignoring about yourself, right? And there's eight different areas of life. So you have to get specific, you have to get to the root. I do that with my clients. I find the root, we shift that. But then even with the root, there are branches of other things. So yes, address the root, but you're also going to have to address, you know, maybe grew up with a very critical parent. The root could be something else, but then you're still going to have to work on clearing out the criticism, reversing that pattern, that belief, that habit. There are physical things you have to do as well.
So another example, uh, you're not sleeping well, right? This is a big one I've actually seen from several clients recently, sleep issues, because our higher self, our guides, they will speak to us in the areas that will actually pay attention. So for me, sleep is so important to me. I love my sleep, right? When I'm experiencing issues falling asleep or waking up and not going back to sleep or restless sleep, I know it's just a reflection. It's not actually my sleep that's the issue. I do for my human brain check like, is there an actual physical issue happening here? No. Is this completely reflective? Yes, right. There might be a small physical thing. Maybe I need to add in a supplement. I that's what I use my intuition for every day, all day, like figuring out how to adjust things, right? And typically, I mean, it's really different for everyone. Uh, for some people, if you're having trouble falling asleep, it's because you don't feel like you've done enough throughout the day. You're not valuing the things you did do. You feel like you're just not doing enough, you're not good enough, that kind of thing. That can prevent falling asleep. But then it would be a different reflection for if you're waking up in the middle of the night, or even if your kid is waking you up in the middle of the night, or a pet, right? Those are all different reflections. So the problem isn't your kid or your pet or your partner snoring. It's you, which is awesome, right? Because so many people I've heard say, Well, I have no control over
the situation. Catch yourself. Promise me that you will catch yourself the next time you say, I have no control over this, because that was a dark force programming that happened to all of us so that we would follow a leader, so that we wouldn't be the leader, right? Because if we have no control, then we wouldn't lead. Got it? Is that true? Do you is there ever a situation where you don't have control to change something? No. There's always, always something you can do. It's just a matter of getting out of the fight or flight, right? Because you're not going to see solutions when you're in fight or flight. You're just going to feel like you have to make sure you survive. So it's going to be impossible to find solutions when you're in fight or flight, when you're running the same programs, all of that, right? So the first thing is you have to get yourself out of fight or flight. Now, I have a lot of tools for that. Or see someone who has intuitive abilities and who can look in and say, here's the root of your issue, here's what needs to be shifted, here's your homework. Like that is what I do in my sessions. Because yes, I'm doing healings on them, I'm doing everything energetically to support my clients, but they still have to take physical action or they're not going to see the changes that they want. So the next time you catch yourself saying, I have no control over this, just stop and say, actually, I do. Because when we say I have no control, I can't do this, your body will actually shift like a transformer to uh be basically a self-fulfilling prophecy that you don't have control over this, that you can't do anything, that you're not able to go on stage and speak, that you're not able to go out on a date, whatever it is, right? So our words are very powerful, and our beliefs, especially when connected with emotions, are super powerful. And sometimes it requires thinking outside of the box. Okay. So I'm not gonna suggest doing this next thing, but this is just to make a point. Uh, let's say your partner is saying he's refusing to take the trash out or he's not helping with the dishes, right? If you were holding a sword at his head, do you think he's going to do it? Yes, right. Not that again, I'm not saying to do that. I'm just trying to get your mind expanded beyond there's just no solution, right? Because if you're walking around with a sword, you might have a little bit more control, right? Again, not what I would do, not what I would advise anyone to do, but I'm just being a little exaggerated in my point here. There are ways to control the situation. And what's really cool is in relationships, it just takes one person. So if you, which you are, if you're listening to this, are a high conscious, older soul, it just takes you. You don't even have to tell your partner about any of this stuff. Because I know a lot of my clients,
they have partners who might not understand this world, and they don't have to. That's the cool thing, is by shifting yourself, you don't even have to have the conversation with them. I had this happen last month when all around my move, I've had a lot of reflections, right? So I moved and my oldest daughter, who lives, you know, 12 hours away, it does not affect her at all. Uh, she randomly decided to be really angry with me over the move, which again made no logical sense whatsoever. And so I was like, okay, this is not her. She's not actually mad at me. She's just showing me something that I'm angry at myself about something. So when I took some time to look in, I was like, oh, I'm angry at myself about this. The day that I shifted it, she called me and she was just like, Mom, I miss you. I'm having a hard time. Can we talk? And then we've been fine ever since. I didn't have to have any conversations with her. It was unnecessary. And it would have just been like, for those of you who listened to the relationship audio series, I teach this lot of mirrors, right? So, like, whatever you're doing in the mirror, your reflection is going to show you. So it would be basically like trying to fix the eyeliner in my reflection instead of fixing the eyeliner on my actual body. It does nothing, it just creates more tension, more stress, more reflections because you're going to get emotional. So the problem presented to you is never actually the problem. Really, really key to understand. I'll give you one more example and then I'll give you a little tool to walk away with. But the other day, some of you will know this if you were, if you're in one of my classes, but uh I was at the gas station with my son. I had been dealing with reflections and not sitting down to actually shift them. I was busy. I was just like, oh, I don't want to do this. This feels overwhelming, all the things. So we're at the gas station, chatting away. And, you know, at the gas station, they have these yellow poles, metal poles, that are like shorter than the car, which makes no sense to me. Like, make
them higher than the car so we could actually see them, right? So I was chatting with my son, and I even have a backup camera, so I really don't have, I really don't have an excuse. But again, this is the way higher self, the universe will communicate with you to get your attention. So chatting, chatting, backup, crunch. I could hear the metal crunch against the pole. I had backed right into the yellow pole. My son was like, I want to get out. I want to see the, I want to see what happened. And I was like, no, no, no, no, no, I'm gonna fix this. So I pull around and I look at the pole, and sure enough, there's black paint, which my car is black, all over it. And I'm like, okay, this is the time. Uh once in a while, my higher self will let me bargain with her. And I just said, Okay, higher self, I know I've been putting off dealing with these reflections. If I promise to go straight home and address these reflections, can I do a healing on my car so that there will be no damage? Because I'm about to trade my car in. So, like, damage would be not good, right? Regardless, but really not good when you're trying to trade it in. So she actually said yes. So on my way from the gas station to home, while my son's talking to me, you can do this, so you can do anything. I am going back in time, and as crazy as it sounds, time is not real. Like this has been proven many times, but time and space do not exist. I went back in time, for lack of better words, made that not happen. So I made it so that I didn't back into the pole. And I purposely didn't look at the damage because there are limitations with our human brain. If I had gotten out of the car, saw how crunched up my back, my trunk was, I my human would not have been on board. Like it would have blocked my ability to fix it. So I purposely did not get out and look at it, but I mean, I can still hear the crunch of the metal. And there was quite an impact as well. So we're driving, I'm doing the healing, we get home, and I'm like nervous to get out of the car. But my son is like, I want to see what happened. So we jump out, we go and look, not even a scratch, not even a piece of yellow paint from the pole, nothing. It looks exactly like it did when I pulled up to the gas station. So that is the power that we have. Now, obviously, I've worked hard on that and I use my power for good, but other people might have just been like, oh, there's nothing I can do about it, right? Like even five years ago, my human self would have just been like, well, of course this happened. No good things happened to me. This is just another bad thing that's happening, and now I have to deal with this and that and this. That's a very normal human way to react when you don't know that you literally have the power of a mini god to create what you want in your life. Because you do. You just have to earn the right, you just have to learn, you have to put in the time and the effort. And I 100% walked in the house and went and worked on my reflections, right? Because I've only bargained with her a couple of times like that, but she knows that I'm in business and I'm pretty hardcore about all of this stuff. So just start noticing when you think you don't have control, when you think there's a problem that's not actually a problem.
As another example, since I moved into this house, I've had a water leak happen in different rooms of the house at least once a week, if not more. And not surprisingly, when the plumber shows up, he can't find anything wrong because it's a reflection, because my higher self knows I will pay attention to water leaks because of the mold situation I had in the past. So that is me massively leaking energy in the area of financial. It's very specific for me. Backing into a poll, that reflection was a higher level reflection that had been building around feeling like something from my past was gonna pop in and catch me off guard and ruin my future. So there are very specific communications and messages that your higher self and your guides and the universe are trying to help you with. You just have to take a moment to be like, okay, the problem isn't the problem. I have control. Let me see what's going on. And even if you don't have intuition, just look at what happened, right? So it's easier to do with people. And that's why I love teaching high conscious relationship tools and teachings because it's so much easier, even though it's not fun. It is easier to see what's happening when a human is talking to you or treating you a certain
way. I had a client, uh finance client, not my sole pool client, say some really rude things to me a few weeks ago. And I actually felt my nervous system start reacting. Like I felt like I was gonna cry. I actually did start crying. I started crying, I felt like I was gonna throw up. I literally had to have my best friend kind of talk me down. This isn't really what's happening. And then I was like, uh, of course, it's not. It was just some kind of PTSD moment where the emotions kicked in and showed me I haven't quite healed that little piece yet when a certain kind of person talks to me in that way. So I just looked in at what he said to me. Was he rooted to it? No, pulled the message behind it, right? Which was a blend of like criticizing me and accusing me for of something that made no sense and expecting me to know things that I possibly that I couldn't possibly know. I don't want to get into all the details, so I'm just trying to be a little vague, but it was very interesting because in no way did it make any sense. And he had never done that to me before. So it wasn't like something I had happen had happened before, but at that moment I had been building up a reflection where I wasn't listening to myself. I was criticizing myself, I was putting too much on myself. That's exactly what he showed me. I shifted it and then he never said a word back. So this is the power that you have. And I do highly recommend learning high conscious relationship tools and mastery because, again, it reduces the conflict, it reduces the blame because you're blaming someone who is actually helping you. And I know it sounds weird, but they are actually just stepping into your energy and helping you. Like I have clients who complain about the way their kids treat them. Well, it's not your kids' fault, it's actually they're stepping into your energy and they're responding to your energy. They're actually helping you. So, like, it's a whole conversation that we'll get into at some point because, you know, another piece of the dark force world, blaming it on the kids and that kind of thing. I shift myself, my kids shift. Like, yes, there are, of course, things within parenting. It's not like a free, free-for-all. But when my son's being hyperactive or can't focus, I don't get mad at him because I know he's just showing me something. So why would I get mad at him? He's actually helping me, right? So the tool would be notice how the person is treating you. What are your judgment statements? Like write them out. I feel like she's criticizing me, or I feel like he's not listening to me. Then try to figure out which area of life you're doing that to yourself. And this is where intuition is helpful because it's often a quick little thought, limiting yourself, criticizing yourself, right? It's a little thought. When you have intuition, you can trace it back to the actual like seed moment. But if you don't, just try to notice patterns of thoughts. Like, do you criticize yourself a lot? Maybe it's in physical. Maybe you're criticizing the way you look. Okay, so that would be easy to find without intuition, right? But again, the world would be amazing if everybody got their intuition dialed in and everybody knew dark force techniques. Like there, we would not fall for any of the BS that we have been falling for for decades. So that's my biggest recommendation for anyone listening who wants to take control of their life. Get your intuition dialed in, learn dark force techniques. I don't teach intuition. I can send you a recommendation. I do teach dark force techniques, level one and level 1.5. So reach out if you have any questions or if you want guidance, that kind of thing. And I'm happy to point you in the right direction. So sending you guys so much love, and I will talk to you soon. Bye.
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